Relationships: Re-Building what you want.Rebuilding your relationship. Openness and trust in the Relationship is the first step needed to have trust and openness. Communication without expectation. This takes time to build the steps. As some of us have been in bad relationships, some have not learned how to have a proper relationship. The negative relationships learned from family, friends, and our own in the past need to be change in ourselves and left out of our relationship or new relationship. Start by cleaning out your closet. “This does not mean for you to expect or demand that your partner or friends to clean out theirs. It means to clean up your life. Your thoughts. Your expectations, Your wants and demands.Take a good hard look at your life, your experiences, Why is and has your life been that way.Become clear on what you want in your life. What you want in a partner.When you can come into a relationship without demands and certain expectations, being open, understanding, caring, nurturing, honest, and love unconditionally. { Unconditional }Those of you that do not have openness and trust will need to work on this.It takes two to make a relationship work. If one is not willing to work on and see any part of it in themselves. Let go ~ move on! You can not change that which does not want to change. In other words you can not change another person, they must change thierselves.You will need to let go of your defenses, because you will need total openness and trust. This does not mean to be a walking mat, or a punching bag. Abusive relationships in any form are not health, caring, supportive relationships, they are one sided, controling relationships and no one deserve that kind of relationship.In trying to bring openness into the relationship you start with things you like and don’t like.If your partner doesn’t like something try not to do that. ( for example ] If you like to grab areas of the body and your partner does not like it, discontinue doing that. Why disgust and aggravate by continuing to do it. You may be getting a kick out of it, but the other is putting up wall of disgust.These wall’s are very hard for most people to tear down.If you truly try both of you can find things you both like and enjoy. Therefore replacing those with positive interaction can help bring down any of the wall’s that have been put up. Therefore reinforcing openness and trust. Things that you can deal with.Being playful is fun, uplifting and can even be stimulating.Nothing is perfect, and there are times for compromising. Just as long as it is not always one-sided. Each person needs to be heard, understood and cared about. Each person needs to have his and or her needs met.Intimacy is not just sex or making love. { Mental, Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Intimacy }Create together an atmosphere of mutual trust between you and your partner.Creating that special place. This place should set apart your everyday life. It should not be cluttered, have a tv. phone, alarm, pets, or any distractions. You could fill it with some Paintings, photos, art objects, sculptures, posters, plants, candles, aromatherapy scents, flowers, soft pleasing relaxing music, etc. These can help in relaxing your mental focus and enhance exotic feelings. These things can help bring about a greater awareness to the way you think, feel and act.It should set the stage so to speak, for special moments, reflecting claming feel.Compliment each other everyday and be sincere about it, even if you are just trying it for fun.It can transform your environment and your mood. If your one of those that have a problem excepting compliment. try. Or one that doesn’t like giving compliments, try.
